Self-Healing Journey: How to Redefine Yourself

    Redefining yourself means changing and evolving into a better version of yourself. Humans are always changing and evolving, so we must drive our changes in better directions than our past selves.

    Changing and evolving are different for every individual, even for the most perfect identical twins. For some, they can become more unbound, while others become more collected, etc. Just remember that "We are The Main Characters" of our own lives, our stories. Where will all these changes lead us? How our future will look depends on what we choose now. For that, we sometimes need guides, just like how traffic signs help us drive more safely to our destination.

    For that, I'm sharing how I redefine myself step by step, hoping it will help some of you who might be in need and are now on a journey to redefine yourself :

    1. Knowing and accepting yourself as an individual who is unique and different. 

Getting to know yourself by admitting all your good and bad parts. We as individuals have known who we are all along, but we often won't admit or accept our "unwanted bad parts" of ourselves. We often seek validation and acceptance from others, but you must not forget that before asking others, you must ask yourself first for acceptance. This is the most important step to truly redefine yourself.

    2. Learn how to be kinder and better to yourself.

After getting to know yourself better comes the acceptance. Learning to love yourself is not selfish nor is it narcistic. Loving yourself is about trusting and being confident of yourself, of who you become, your past, present, and future. Respect yourself, trust who you are, be confident of what you become as long as it doesn't cross a single line, that is your humanity. Your humanity will be your compass that will keep you  safe in the society. Don't wait for others to be kinder or respect you, because people are not obligated to do that, it is their choice. So instead, You have to be kind to yourself. This is how you start to heal from your pains and wounds.

Tell yourself that you are enough, that you are great and loved, not because of others but because of who you are.

    3. Balance your Goodness and Badness

Good and bad are two sides of the same coin and they need balance in between. For example, some level of selfish or narcistic are needed to love yourself better and creates your boundaries, individuality and confidence. But if you tip this balance off by being to selfish or narcistic will make you prideful, it will leads to you being isolated and alone. On the other hand, if you love yourself to much it will makes you afraid of taking steps and risks, until it eventually will makes you unable to see hope and disregard all the good things you have, you will ultimately descends into selfhate. Here you see that too much of Good or Bad will equally leads to the worst ending, therefore happy ending can only be gained through a balance between your good and bad traits.

    4. Rediscover yourself and redefine who you are

After being able to know yourself better, accepting who you are, and keeping the balance inside you, all that left is to make your choice and take your steps toward it. Discover what you want to do from now on and what you will become. What is your new target? What is it that you wish for? Seek the answer inside you. Discover what you already have and don't have inside you toward that goal. Next, take your first step forward to your new destination, acquire and learn what you haven't had inside you, be it skills, traits, people, jobs, etc. And show your new self outward while you're at it. Be cofident of the new redefined version of you.

Remember who you are, get to know who you are, accept who you are, and redefine yourself to the world.